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From the Clerk's Bench

Spiritual Masons

Thoughts on joy and woe

Celebrating Times And Seasons

What do people think about during Meeting?

Why do people sometimes speak?

Words of Wisdom

Worship & Ministry Committee Articles

Traditions Concerning Meeting for Worship

Meeting for Business

Getting to the Church On Time

How to Explore a Meeting

Quaker terms

The Real Work of Christmas

Your Friend William Penn

The Light Within

On My Honor

Martin Luther King

Lessons in the Garden

Integrity & Medical Errors

Quotes

 

From the Clerk’s Bench by John Bailey

Driving to Meeting this morning I witnessed something that I’ve seen many times. Today I perceived this image differently. Perhaps what is different is that I am sitting here with my spirit open and my eyes closed.  It was a squirrel crossing the road in front of the car before me. We have all seen this uniquely squirrel like crossing routine.  Darting across at full speed then changing direction 180 degrees, then back. As always, I held my breath and hit the brakes.  This time he made it. He managed to dodge all this energy. He was going against the flow, the main stream. Someone who was not going to stop and consider his reasons. He took his chances and did it. Sometimes I feel like this squirrel. Trying to do something that goes against the energy of our speeding society.

 I thought of how other animals deal with crossing this highway that seems to have a right to exist by its might or some perceived and perhaps twisted freedom. The deer will also dash across, but will freeze in the middle of the road. I can also relate to this.

 Then I remembered the goose. Who hasn’t seen a family of geese crossing the road with their heads held high in a line with the parents and goslings waddling along while traffic is at a complete stop, until they all slowly reach the other side? I have also felt like that a few times in my life when I’ve held my head high and stopped the mad rush. Or maybe just diverted it for a moment.

 My thoughts wandered to Thursday’s anniversary of the 1963 civil rights march on Washington and Martin Luther King’s famous speech. Those folks held their heads high; they stopped the seemingly unchangeable flow of America .  I thought of Pricilla Adams an employee of Philadelphia Yearly Meeting refusing to pay her "war taxes." And of the pending legal action by the IRS against PYM for refusing to garnish her wages. They believe in crossing that road with their heads high.

 Then I thought of our own Peace Fair and how we have literally stopped the traffic on Rt. 202 with the incredible number of cars flowing into the fair.  We may also, in some small way, be redirecting a certain flow.

 I want to be a goose!

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Spiritual Masons

 When we welcome a new attender, a congregation at a wedding or a memorial meeting for worship, we speak of the physical place and the lovely stone and wood that make up our Meetinghouse, a place inviting to Friends for these 235 years. But, we are more importantly referring to the spiritual Meeting of Friends, the Meeting that would exist even if these walls were to pass into rubble.

It occurred to me today that the stones of this Meeting that so long ago were built up high are held there by an invisible force. The force of gravity “set” these heavy stones and continues to hold them together. A thing that rises up held there by a downward force! This of course sounds paradoxical. A Friend once told me that when we find ourselves in a paradox, we are in a spiritual place.

 The master mason that selected and lifted the stones placed both large and small, rough and smooth to complement and support each for the strength of the walls and perhaps therefore for beauty. He also placed a bit of mortar to help gravity distribute its force. He followed ancient rules to use the force and never disputed its existence. A force, an indisputable force, that even to this day remains a mystery. That worker long ago could not touch or see it but possessed the faith that it would hold those stones in place.

 Invisible forces also hold up our meeting of spirit. Our individual spirits, like the stones, are connected to every other spirit while being under the influence of a force. A force not just downward or upward but perhaps inward and outward. Something invisible yet felt by all and disputed by some. I feel this force strongly within these walls. Perhaps this is because the spirits of all those who worshiped here throughout the years and have passed on are still part of this meeting of spirit. They have not come loose and fallen out. They still hold us up. Their support has nothing to do with human time and earthly erosion.

The mortar that helps this force and keeps us close is the love that is part of us all.

 Unlike the stones, we “point” our own mortar everyday. We choose to love. We choose to accept love. Everyday we decide how strong the connections are to each other. We decide to build the bond with love. There are storms that have ravaged the stone Meeting and there will be many storms to test our bonds.

 Are we apprentices to a master mason? Can we hope to ever get it right? These bonds of community do not stop at the Meetinghouse threshold. We choose to maintain a meeting of spirit everywhere in our lives and in all our connections with others. Maybe finding a spot for the rough, different-hued or unusual “stone” helps us to master the craft. Learning to direct the invisible force in or lives is what lifts us up. Our responsibility, like the mason’s, is to build. To construct something beyond ourselves with a beauty beyond beauty, beyond this world into the eternal.

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Thoughts on joy and woe

 

Man was made for joy and woe;

And when this we rightly know

Through the world we safely go.

Joy and woe are woven fine,

A clothing for the soul divine.

 

This bit of William Blake’s Auguries of innocence has helped me through some low times.

This world is full of woe, much of it because of violence.

Disagreements are part of life. In fact it could be said disagreements are necessary.

With respect, a disagreement leads to a higher place. It can be a sort of search for a higher knowledge. Sometimes even a joy. The old thesis-anti thesis-synthesis.

But when does a disagreement cross a line and become a disrespectful degradation of the parties involved?  When does it become violence? Perhaps when one’s joy becomes another’s woe that line is crossed.  

Perhaps instead of weaving clothing for the soul, when one’s woe produces another’s joy, there is instead a heavenly fabric, a kind of ripping apart.

 Maybe we have felt good, even fleetingly, when we are proven "right" and another "wrong." Its name, one-upmanship" means to be "above" another. That feeling may be a kind of theft from that divine weave.

 What is "right" exists outside of us. In a divine place that takes two different opinions to find. When we teach that another’s woe is our woe and another’s joy is also ours, we will move beyond violence, we teach love, we teach oneness. We teach the light in us all comes from the same light.

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Celebrating Times And Seasons

 Early Quakers saw that the days of the week and the months were named after pagan gods or Roman emperors, so as part of their testimony to simplicity and as part of their Christian faith they started to refer to the days and months by their numbers. So 25th March became 25th day of Third month. Sunday was First day, Monday Second and so on. In Quaker business meetings today you may still find the old practice used but the modern way of dating letters is itself very similar and very simple e.g. 25.3.95, so you are just as likely to find modern Quakers using the modern method. Most Quakers in Britain today however use the names of the days just like other people. Traditionally, Quakers do not keep the Christian festivals. This is because early Quakers believed the Incarnation and the Crucifixion and Resurrection can and should be remembered at all times of worship. Similarly, the presence of the Spirit (as at Pentecost) should always be felt or

acknowledged. God may always be thanked and praised for these things. Since Quaker worship is open to the leadings of the Spirit, it is possible that the Meeting will be led to remembrance of particular events at any time of the year - not just times such as Christmas and Easter.

Nowadays Quaker families mostly celebrate Christmas at home - with all the usual traditions of our society, although perhaps with an extra emphasis on giving to charity - also, since many Quakers are vegetarian, it is not unusual to find a special vegetarian dish instead of the turkey at a Christmas dinner. Some meetings now hold meeting for worship on Christmas Day, or hold a party or other social occasion in the Christmas season. The biggest annual Quaker event is the Yearly Meeting which is attended by as much as one tenth of the membership. Though this is a serious business meeting, the renewal of friendships and the many surrounding events make it a type of 'festival'. In recent years British Quakers have also held a summer gathering which allows Quakers of all ages to worship, celebrate, study and have fun together.

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What do people think about during Meeting?

Ideally every one attending a Quaker Meeting for Worship (or any other religious service) should be able to concentrate completely on God, think high-minded thoughts, and receive inspiration. Some Friends have always felt this should be done through seeking in their silent worship to shut off or

rise above individual thoughts and reach an emptiness open to the speaking of God. As one of the early Quaker writers put it, "When the soul comes to this silence and as it were brought to nothingness as to her own workings, then the devil is shut out."

For most of us, however, worship involves processes of thought, and these are not always as open to God as we might wish. We tend to carry into the period of worship all the baggage of worldly interests and worries. Especially in the early part of the meeting, as people assemble and the group "settles down", one is still likely to think about mundane matters such as pending problems, duties for the week ahead, or the happenings of the day.

 Gradually, and often by an effort of will, you usually are able to put such matters into a deeper or broader perspective and to consider some of their fundamentals rather than incidentals. Or you may be able to leave these worldly concerns completely aside and move to think about some particular

aspect of what one's relationship to God or humans should be. This may be encouraged or guided, as we shall notice, by the words which some one in the meeting may feel moved to speak.

Finally, in the most productive worship, your thinking may move toward ways to apply that which has been under consideration, what your duties are in doing this, and how God is leading and supporting you in what should be done.

Much of the effectiveness of applying one's thinking in the ways which I have just described depends on the mood of the individual and even of the group as a whole. There are times when we simply cannot rid our thinking of personal worries or momentary events and transcend them to thoughts on a more religious level. Friends recognize that on such occasions the results of a meeting for worship may not seem very valuable or satisfactory. Yet they feel that the effort to worship and even the quietness of meditation usually is beneficial, and that more often than realized at the moment a seemingly less-than-ideal period of worship may in the long run have given something of eventual value.

 

 Why do people sometimes speak?

Even though Friends feel that silence is a basic help to worship, they believe that at times one can be "moved" by God to communicate something helpful to the other worshipers. In fact they become rather bothered if meeting after meeting goes by in total silence.

What one is moved to say may take many forms, drawing from prayers, from the Bible or other inspirational writings, from poems, from deep concerns of the day, from personal happenings, from current time marks such as New Year's or Easter. Ideally, the speaking is brief, perhaps merely a few sentences. It is not a sermon, but merely a communicating of what one feels God-inspired to share with the others.

It is expected that after some one speaks there should again be silence for a few minutes, as the worshipers ponder the implications and applications of what has been said. This may lead to further speaking as the original concept is expanded or molded, but not to debating or argument. Some in the group may feel that a message has spoken to their condition"; others may not. Often worshipers discover that the words which are spoken express what they themselves have been thinking, or guide them to new and better directions.

But those who speak in Meeting for Worship supposedly do so because they feel they have to, not just because an intriguing thought has crossed their minds. And when some one speaks from that deep motivation it does not seem to break into the silence. Instead what is said tends to enhance the silent worship, making it more fruitful to all present.

 

Here is part of a Whittier poem about speaking at Meeting:

Till haply someone felt

On his moved lips the seal of silence melt,

Or without spoken word, low breathing stole

Of a diviner Life from soul to soul

Baptizing in one tender thought the whole.

 

Thanks to Laurence Barber, Yarmouth Meeting

 

Words of Wisdom

Friends,

The principal of my daughter’s high school, Miss Brady, speaks to the students each Wednesday morning via TV monitors in each class. She does something she calls Wisdom Wednesdays. She usually has a few words about things like respect, tolerance or other character building virtues. There normally is a quote included. Her last bit is always the same. She says, “Make it a great day . . . or not.  The choice is yours.”  I along with many parents receive Wisdom Wednesdays by email. Here is an example:

Good Morning, Hunterdon Central. This is Miss Brady with a few words of wisdom.

All we human beings have one thing in common: We are sailing through life the best way we know how.  And have you noticed that some of us are sailing on smoother seas, while others are sailing in some pretty rough waters?  In other words, some of us are facing very few challenges and others seem to face one major challenge after another.  We can all agree that it’s easier to be a successful human being when everything is “smooth sailing” and harder when things are rough.

Now listen to these words from American minister Robert Schuller:

Any person can be successful on smooth seas—but, it is the victor over the storm who gains true honor.

If your life is a bit stormy and the waters are rough, remember this: If you hang in there, ask for help when you need it, and keep a positive attitude, you’ll be a stronger, wiser human being when you reach the other side of the storm.

With something to think about, this is Miss Brady. Make it a great day . . . or not.  The choice is yours.

I asked Erin how the students react to these words of wisdom. She said that for the most part they don’t seem to be listening. She did say that almost everyone either lip syncs of speaks aloud the principle’s last part. As I read her words on my computer each Wednesday, I imagine a school of over 2000 teens and they are all repeating Miss Brady’s words, “Have a good day or not. It is up to you.” I love getting these words every week, but at first I thought that the joke was on her. Then I realized that if these kids were not listening, how would they know when to repeat those ending words of hers? They need to listen for the cue. Perhaps Miss. Brady really knows these kids and is getting through!

You and I hear spiritual words everyday. They can come from the most unexpected sources. Are we listening?

There is a small still voice within us all that also speaks to us. Do we turn the volume down to the rest of our lives enough to listen? Are we just listening for our cue? Can our first day worship provide a place to turn the volume down?

To paraphrase Miss Brady, we can choose to listen or not. It is up to us.

 

 

 

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 Worship & Ministry Committee Articles

Traditions Concerning Meeting for Worship

 by John Bailey

    The Worship and Ministry Committee would like to present a series of articles concerning Friends Meeting for Worship. This is the first in the series.

    The committee is thoughtfully lead to discuss the “traditions” of our form of worship.

    These traditions are guidelines that Quakers have used for over 350 years. Guidelines meant to expand our spiritual connection not just rules of restriction.

    They exist as traditions and not steadfast rules because Friends believe that matters of the spirit can evolve and are continuously being revealed to us. To live by the light of God, not ruled by a temporal list, is what sets Quakers apart from most religions.

    Our Meeting for Worship is a time of listening and waiting on the spirit. We are all equal partners in this experience. Equal in the responsibility to interpret what is reviled and open for it to touch our being. It has been said, “We are all receivers and we are all transmitters.”

    One “Tradition” is concerned with the practice of reading aloud from books or articles. The exception is the Bible.   

    Many friends speak of being prepared for Worship. This preparation involves practices that may help in stilling the mind. Some Friend use music. Many find reading materials that inspire us as a way to settle into a spiritual place. They encourage us to open our hearts and minds for the Worship to come.

    Why would this practice of reading aloud at Meeting for Worship be questionable? This, at first, may seem restrictive, as we all have read incredibly spiritual words that have stirred our spirits. These written words often “speak to our condition”.  Why would these same words be questionable read in Meeting?

    An example of this concern was part of an article recently published in the March issue of Friends Journal. In this article Robert A. Callard writes, “ I was reading so-and-so’s book, and it came to me….What could seem more natural than actually to have the quote in hand rather than a loose paraphrase? So out comes the clipping.”

    Perhaps the Friendlier approach would be to use the “loose paraphrase”. If the spiritual within the article touches the speaker, it is in the individual revelation and interpretation that Friends have traditionally held most important. If the spirit of that article “speaks to their condition”, perhaps the message of condition needs to, or even must, be shared. A message that comes from a living revelation not the symbols on paper is traditionally more welcome at Meeting for Worship. In the words of Paul, “for the letter killeth, but the spirit giveth life.”   

    This importance to the living spirit can point the way for both Friends messages during worship as well as the spirit of our traditional guidelines.

    What if a Friend persists in reading aloud at Worship? Friends do practice “Eldering”. The eldering can take the form of a simple discussion after Meeting to ushering out a Friend from the Meetinghouse. The latter is rare and used when there are grossly inappropriate messages such as words that are hurtful or violent. (Friends would care deeply for the individual’s state of mind and try and help them through all possible means.)

    Early Friends used the word “experimental” in describing our faith.

    Answers are sought and we all follow our individual spiritual paths.

    Being open to the spiritual paths of our fellow seekers can make all the difference.

    I will end with a part of Robert Lawrence Smith’s A Quaker Book of Wisdom.

Traditional Quaker Meeting, as inaugurated in the seventeenth century, has been called an experiment in religious anarchy. Because all authority is vested in all members, all people are equally entitled to speak. Each meeting is a gamble with the human spirit, a wager that more will be brought out of the room that was brought in – more depth, more insight, more truth, more knowledge, more growth in each and among all. An individual’s “vocal ministry” is expected to conform to the idea of sharing the light within as a means of reaching the light in others. It should also be both succinct and spontaneous. But it doesn’t always happen that way.

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Meeting for Business

 by John Bailey

 

I have been feeling pretty good about the state of our meeting lately. The Fair was wonderful, the "All School Meeting" had an increased attendance and we have some new attenders. However, there is something I must communicate with the membership. That is the small attendance of our Meeting for Business.

Today was our monthly Meeting for Business and we were unable to make the required member attendance of 10 (a quorum). We had 9 members. This "just under" a quorum has been typical lately. Many friends may be unaware that our bylaws state that a quorum is required for Buckingham Friends to conduct our business. We are unable to make approvals without at least the 10 present. Today was also the annual Business Meeting for Buckingham Friends School and we could not even approve the Head of School’s report. Luckily the school’s financial report and audit was not ready in time for today’s meeting so that is held over till next month.

Friends, we at Buckingham Friends are the corporation of the school and are critical to making major decisions. I believe that our Worship lately has been rich and centered. Quakerism, although quiet in worship, is a religion that speaks though action and service. This is what attracted me, as I am sure many of you, to this meeting.

Meeting for Business is the heart of that service in which our Meeting as a whole is involved. On the Meeting for Business days, I am often struck how we make that transition from a community of faith to one of practice. Not only do we reflect on the outcome of our many hard working committees, we also make important decisions concerning action the Meeting takes on a range of issues.

There is an old Quaker saying, "When the worship ends, the service begins." The tradition of Friends translating their beliefs into action is the core of modern Quakerism.

Please join us ... as many second first-days as you can, to continue that tradition.

 

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Getting to the Church on Time

by Tim Cunningham

 I grew up in another church, which had services every Sunday at 6:30 , 7:30 , 9:00 , 10:30 , and 12 noon .  Since I come from a family that believe sleeping and eating should be Olympic sports, especially on a weekend, the first three were certainly out of the question.  If we missed the 10:30 , we could always say, “Well, there’s always the 12…”  And wouldn’t you know it, on more than a few occasions, we made it to the 12 a few minutes late.

 When I was led to the Friends, I hardly expected anything to be the same as the other church—and I was right, of course.  And since I was getting myself up and to meeting each First Day, and since there was no late show, I could certainly get myself there on time, right?  Well, you don’t forget 20 years of practice overnight.  While I was and usually am here at 10:30 (did you know it used to be 10 in the summer and 11 in the winter?), when I wasn’t, I usually had a rationalization.  (Unfortunately, it wasn’t that I couldn’t find a parking spot like at the other church.)  Now, for example, I live 30 minutes away from meeting.  Well, sometimes it’s 40, or 45, depending on traffic and what’s going on at Peddler’s Village.  And wouldn’t Friends like it if I stopped for doughnuts on the way?

 Even when I was late, Friends seemed genuinely glad to see me at the rise of meeting, and no one ever mentioned it.  (Whew!)  But I know they did notice.  You see, at the other church, they didn’t.  No one noticed me enter, no one noticed me leave, and no one missed me if I didn’t come at all.  But we must admit that when we enter late, there is a tiny break in the silence, and silent worship is how God’s messages are revealed to us.

 We are enriched by every person’s presence, whether they come for singing at 10:15 or through the back door at 10:40 .  In other words, please come!  But take it from an expert: here are some handy tips if you aren’t exactly here on time:

·         Although our different seating arrangement may require some changes, traditionally if you are entering after 10:30 , instead of using the door that faces the parking lot, walk around the corner to the first door that faces 202/263.  But if you have special needs, please ALWAYS enter through the main door where the ramp and handrails are!

·         If there are a few people coming in from the parking lot at about the same time, try to enter together as a group.

·         The latches on our doors can be either very quiet or very noisy.  Turn it into a game—how quietly can I open the latch?  And don’t forget closing it on the other side!

·         If someone is actually speaking when you enter, come in and close the door, but wait until they finish to find a seat.

·         I think I invented this one: the children leave for First Day School at 10:45 .  If you slip in while they slip out, there’s no interruption, and probably only Bethann will notice.

·         And, if you are sitting in meeting and someone enters, let them do it in peace!  Acknowledging their presence or turning to see who it is can be disruptive too.

 That’s my bag of tricks, well honed from 15 years of practice.  But then again, what’s the worst that could happen if I left home five minutes earlier?

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How to Explore a Meeting

By Richard Allen, in Yours in Friendship

             You may ask: What is the point of just sitting in silence with other people? There isn’t really any verbal answer. The Quaker way does not lend itself to being directly taught. I can only give you some hints to help you explore a Quaker meeting, and so find out for yourself.

            When you got to a meeting on a Sunday morning, try if you possibly can to arrive in an unhurried way a few minutes before the stated time. There may be a doorkeeper who will indicate the meeting room. Just go in and sit down in silence; the meeting begins when the first person arrives. If you are early, please sit a little way away from the door, so as to leave room for latecomers.

            It helps to settle down in a comfortable position, preferably with back erect, hands loosely in the lap and legs not crossed. Many people prefer to close their eyes. It often helps, too, to relax all parts of the body one by one, beginning with the feet and ending with the eyes and tongue or vice versa. Then breathe deeply and slowly a few times. There is nothing magical or spiritual about these procedures, they are simply what others have found to be an effective preparation for entering into the silence.

 

Centering down

 How does one make the journey inward? To be honest, nobody can really describe this in words. All I can do is to mention a few practical measures which Friends use to “center down”. These are not psychological techniques or gimmicks, but well-tried, age-old disciplines to help people attain inner quiet. If you are Christian, you can say over in your mind a short prayer which ahs significance for you. The shorter, the better. Everyone will have a favorite. Often a single word such as “God” or “love” repeated in the heart will help.

            You don’t have to be able to call yourself a Christian to take part in a Quaker meeting. If you belong to another religion, you also may have a prayer which is especially dear to you. If you have no specific religion, or are one of those people to whom the eternal, “That Which Is” or “God” or whatever name you do or do not use, comes in a more impersonal way; you may equally well recall a beautiful view or a favorite piece of music or poetry. We all have something precious on which we can steady our minds, for it is love that is the real gate to the inward pilgrim’s way. Life “God” and “Christian”, love is an overworked and misused word. What I mean by the word is “valuing something just for itself, being simply grateful that it exists. Love in that sense is especially there when we hold up other people in our mental arms and desire only their wellbeing. It can be strongly present in a Quaker meeting, where the members usually know and care for one another personally. It seldom fails to embrace the newcomer as well.

 

Difficulties and rewards

 You may quickly find your way, but arriving at the still center is a grace, a gift, which cannot be learned or achieved or commanded. You can only open yourself to it. And that can be quite difficult. The Quaker thin is not a religious soft option! Sometimes the silence may seem cold and lifeless- a mere absence of sound. Or more likely you may find that, as soon as you try to center down, distracting thoughts will dash around in your mind like bluebottles. Feeling sore about a tiff with someone, planning what to do next Thursday, wondering whether you turned off the oven-everything demands your attention. There is no cause to worry about these trivial thoughts or your inability to control them. Try to make friends with them, then gently put them aside. Then return to prayer or another gate by which you entered the silence and start again. Even if that doesn’t work, there is no need to despair. If you do nothing but start again and again, you will find that the hour has not been wasted. You ay well discover that a harassing problem has got nearer to being solved, and a deep worry about a dear one may have become more bearable. 

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Quaker terms

 from:  Beyond Majority Rule by Michael J. Sheeran

Centered:  A condition of an individual or a group in touch with the divine presence.

Clearness:  Confidence that an action is consistent with the divine will.

 Leadings:  A sense of divine guidance or revelation in any action.

 Meeting for worship for business: A gathering of Friends for the purpose of making business decisions.    

Monthly Meeting:  A local community of Friends in which membership resides. So named because, by custom, the community meets once a month to conduct a meeting for business.

 Quarterly Meeting:  A regional unit comprised of two or more monthly meetings which meets on a quarterly basis and conducts a meeting for business.

 Sense of the meeting:  The harmony (union, unity) reached by participants in a business meeting.

 The above is from:  Beyond Majority Rule by Michael J. Sheeran

 

The Real Work of Christmas

(Nineteenth Century Quaker Benediction Traditionally Spoken at Christmas)

When the song of the angel is stilled,

When the star in the sky is gone,

When the Kings and Princes are home,

When the shepherds are back with their flocks

The real work of Christmas begins.

To find the lost

To heal the broken

To feed the hungry

To release the prisoners

To rebuild the nations

To bring peace among brothers

To make music in the heart.

 

Your Friend William Penn

William Penn was born on October 14, 1644 .  He was called Will by his family and friends. Will’s father, Giles, was an admiral in the British Navy.  Giles Penn was a hero.  His mother Margaret was from Ireland .  Will had a sister named Peg and a brother named Dick.  The family was rich and lived well.  Will got to know the woods and loved nature. He enjoyed the outdoors and was great at running and jumping.  He also loved Aesop’s fables.

Will was a good student and had a great memory.  He knew Latin and Greek, perhaps because he went to school 12 hours a day all year round without breaks in the school day.  Will was called slapdash and fast in his schoolwork.  Penn thought the work was too pokey. Will experienced God when he was young.  He prayed and heard God say, “I will always be near to you.  Have faith, in your God, young Will.”

Things really changed for the family when Will’s dad was sent to the Tower.  He was called a traitor and stripped of his honor.  Giles hadn’t done anything wrong or different – the people in charge in England just got nasty. Will left school when he and his family moved to Ireland at the age of12.  Will met a Quaker, Thomas Loe, at age 14.  Loe and other Quakers were called freaks because they were different.

Will went to a silent meeting like ours with Loe.  He noticed that the Quakers kept their hats on because taking them off would mean giving undue respect to certain people.  Loe spoke about non-violence and told Will about mistreatment of Indians in America .  Will was inspired. A new leader came into power in England , Richard Cromwell.  Will’s Dad was not only let out of prison, he was asked to be in Parliament, the government of England .  Will moved back to London with his family. Will went to school at Oxford .  He was not impressed with his snobbish schoolmates whom he considered loose, idle, and profane.  His schoolmates were cruel to Quakers.  When Will refused to go to Oxford ’s Puritan chapel, he was expelled and was then thrown out of the house by his parents.

Will went to Paris .  He studied law and did very well, then he traveled in Italy .  When he returned to England his parents were proud, but he still didn’t work things out with his father. At that time there was a plague in England . The Quakers helped and that made a big impression on Will because the plague was a disease that killed people and few other than Quakers were willing to get near those sick with the plague. 

The next big event that influenced Will’s life was a rebellion in Ireland .  Brave Will got involved and met Loe again in Ireland .  At that point, Will decided to become a Quaker.  Will wrote about how all men are equal, and was arrested because of what he wrote.  He refused to use his father’s influence to be released and spent almost a year in prison in an icy cell with bad food, no books, and no visitors.  While in prison, Will wrote another Quaker pamphlet.  Twice a jury voted to release Will and unfair judge wouldn’t let him go.  Finally, Will was released.

Will’s father was very sick.  Will went home and reconciled with his dad before he died.  Will’s father asked King Charles to look out for his son. Will met Guli, a beautiful, modest, natural, devout Quaker, who was Will’s age, 24.  Will saved Guli’s younger brother John’s life when he was thrown off a horse and into a river. Will preached about Quakerism and was sent to prison again.  He wrote more about being a Quaker while in prison, and also wrote to Guli every day. One of the first things he did when he was out of prison was see George Fox off at the docks when he made his first trip to America .  George Fox sent Will off to Holland and Germany . Will married Guli when he returned.  Will and Guli lived in the country, had a stable, lime trees, and gardens in England .

The king ordered a stop to the prosecution of dissenters, which made Will. Soon his wife had twins, but both died.  Later he had a son named Spingett who he was always very close to and another son name Billy who didn’t turn out to be such a nice guy.  They also had a daughter named Tiche.  The Penn children went to school at home.  They took breaks and spent time with nature learning every two hours – which was a very different than Will’s 12-hour days in the classroom.

Meanwhile, Will continued to help Quakers, and continued to publish his writing. George Fox asked Will to work on a plan for New Jersey using his legal training. Will went to Holland again.  When he came back to England , Quakers being persecuted even more fiercely.  Will worked hard to get a good friend of Quakers elected.  Cheating prevented the win. Penn knew that he had to leave England and thought maybe he could convince the king to give him some land in America .  The King owed Will’s father 16,000 pounds in back salary. When Will met with the king, the king took his hat off.  The king was glad to get the trouble-making Penn out of England and gave Will a piece of land almost as big as England .   Will had to give two beaver skins a year in return.  The king asked Penn to name the land.  Penn suggested New Wales which was refused by the King’s secretary who was from Wales .  Then Penn suggested Sylvania , but the King suggested Pennsylvania .  Penn thought that calling his land Pennsylvania was conceited.  The king said the name was in honor of his father and Penn couldn’t persuade him to change the name.  Penn named his first colony Philadelphia , which means the city of brotherly love.

Penn sold land to people who wanted to go to America .  He used that money, plus his own and paid the Indians who were living in Pennsylvania for the land the King “gave” him.  Will sent his cousin William Markham off to Pennsylvania right away while Will planned the government and convinced good people to move to America . Will decided they should have free elections and laws with trials and juries.  Will decided every free man who believed in God could vote.  Will signed this charter in 1682 and then Penn then sailed to America on the Welcome – his wife and children stayed behind.  Of the 100 people on board, 31 became sick and died.

When Will arrived in Philadelphia , he saw Indians in canoes with shaved heads with top-knots of hair with a quill.  A Quaker came over a year later and found Will having dinner in his home with Indians, speaking to the Indians in their language.  The Indians called Penn Onas, which meant quill. Taminent, the chief of the Delaware Indians, would sit with his council in a half moon shape, with the young folks behind him, and rule by what was right for their people.  Taminent gave Penn a belt woven of wampum.  The design of the wampum showed a man wearing a hat like Penn’s shaking hands with another hatless man. Penn and Taminent created a treaty to live together peacefully and sell land.  Penn smoked a peace pipe even though he hated tobacco.  The Indians jumped and ran to celebrate.  Penn won a race which really impressed the Indians.  Will spend many nights in wigwams, eating venison, bear meat, and corn.  The Indians served their food on bark and used mussel shells as spoons.

For the purchase of Philadelphia, some of the things that Penn gave the Indians included 40 pairs of scissors, 200 small mirrors, 40 combs, a bag full of needles, 20 coats, guns, kettles and axes. The colonists had building bees to help each other create their homes in Philadelphia .  The Philadelphia Quakers bought game from the Indians because they didn’t want to kill animals.

Penn paid the cost of the government out of his own pocket from the money coming from his family farm in Ireland .  Penn refused to consider the idea of getting money from the colonists from taxes. While Philadelphia was growing, so was the city called Baltimore .  Lord Baltimore said that Philadelphia was really part of his land.  Since there really wasn’t a good map to prove who was right, Penn went back to England to talk things over about the land and to bring his family back to Pennsylvania to the home he was building in Pennsbury.

King Charles had died and King James took over.  There were about 1,300 Quakers in prison.  Will wanted the Quakers to be let out of prison and James, who turned out to be a good man, agreed to let them go. Wll made the mistake of hanging around London where things were finally getting ok for Quakers.  Then William of Orange, who married the sister of King James, named Mary, came over to England from Holland .  William of Orange threw King James out of power.  He called Will Penn a traitor.  William of Orange was a protestant who didn’t like Quakers.  Will Penn was almost arrested several times.

Penn went into hiding for three years and spend his time writing to inspire Quakers.  The King’s men took away everything from Penn, so he didn’t have any money.  They also took away Penn’s job as governor of Pennsylvania . Pnn’s wife died.  His oldest son died and his other son, Billy, wouldn’t help him.  After a while, Penn, who was 51, married Hannah who was 20 years younger.  Penn agreed that the colonists from Pennsylvania would help the king in a colonial war against France and he got Pennsylvania back.  Then Penn went back to Pennsylvania with Hannah.  It took Penn three months to sail from England to Pennsylvania .

Things were pretty different went Penn returned.  There were 700 houses in Pennsylvania .  The Indians were really happy to see Penn and brought him things like 40-pound turkeys and special herbs. Penn worked to make the government better.  He passed laws to outlaw pirates.  But the Quakers treated the pirates fairly – not the way they were treated in prison.  Penn continued work on his home in Pennsbury, about 25 miles from Pennsylvania .  Will released the slaves that he had there. Then there was trouble again when the colonies started to be successful.  England wanted to take over the colonies.  Penn went back to England again to try to work things out. Penn was in debt because he used his own money to pay for Pennsylvania .  Penn was tricked by a guy named Ford, who got Penn to pay him money that he really didn’t owe. This resulted in Penn being put in prison as a debtor back in England .  Penn held off selling Pennsylvania to pay off his debts.  Penn had a stroke, lost his memory and died six years later.  The Indians sent Will’s wife Hannah a gift of furs to wear in the wilderness without Will as her guide.

Penn’s statue still towers over Philadelphia on City Hall, the city of brotherly love, and his memory still inspires Quakers today.

 

The Light Within by Elizabeth B.

Quakers have a concept called "the light within," or "that of God in everyone."  We believe that everyone not only has a direct connection to God -- hence no requirement for priests, etc. -- but that it's even closer than that:  each of us has "that of God" within us. (It is this belief that leads Quakers to taking a stand against war and other violence:  how can you justify mistreating or killing any human being, when each is a manifestation of God?)

         When people say that they will "hold [someone] in the light," it means that in a prayerful or meditative or centered state, they will be rooting for him to find or return to his own center; find the light within; be cradled in love and wisdom; and be suffused with light. It is a prayer that he be healed in spirit, that he finds his path. (One can hold people in the light regardless of the nature of the challenge or difficulty they are facing. For example, I have held my brother's youngest grandson, a baby facing open heart surgery, in the light.)  When one holds someone in the light, what one feels is love and compassion.

         When you stand in the light and are extending a hand to someone who is struggling with something, here's what it's like: all of the space within you is filled with a profound yearning to help her move towards the light so that she experiences clarity, courage, and serenity about her path forward. There is no room for being judgmental when you stand in the light; it's as if all the mental synapses required to be judgmental have been disconnected. You don't measure somebody against some yardstick and find ways in which she falls short; that's a concept foreign to standing in the light, a concept with literally no meaning. You simply cherish her, honor her, respect her, and root for her to gain more certain footing, to stand in the light. There is love and ruthless compassion, by which I mean that you are unable to prevaricate or soft-pedal the clarity you have -- there's no such thing as avoiding saying something that needs to be said because you know that she has had a hard day or year or life; there are no white lies in the light. You speak the truth.

         If you are the one struggling with something, by definition you're off balance, unsettled. And there's plenty of room where you are standing for self-judgment and self-recrimination; for denial and defenses and diversions; for worrying about what the other guy thinks of you. And if the other guy you're talking with is standing in the light, it's a bit of a challenge to get a conversation between the two people to work, because what is foremost in the mind of each is entirely absent from the mind of the other. It requires a humility and willingness to be still on the part of the one struggling; a willingness to allow the power and clarity in; a willingness to feel naked in front of someone else who at least in that moment seems to see right through you and see exactly who you are. Astonishingly enough (from a rational perspective), it feels like the biggest challenge is being willing to be known and loved.

        One can get a sense for how unnecessary or unproductive all the mental chatter on the part of the one struggling is if one considers the analogy of children learning to walk. If when they fell, they slipped into self-judgment and anxiety, they'd never learn to walk. But they just keep moving, and the tall people just cheer them on. The tall people certainly aren't frowning in judgment when the short people fall; that's an unrecognizable concept. What matters is that they keep getting up and keep moving. That's what you celebrate.

On My Honor by Elizabeth B.

My beliefs and experience did set me at odds -- have always set me at odds -- with my surroundings.  I have not taken stances simply to be different; I have taken them because they seemed necessary to me.  In the eighth grade, six or eight of us girls were sent to a group interview with representatives of the Daughters of the American Revolution.  Perhaps we were competing for a savings bond to be used for college -- something like that.  I had mixed feelings about participating, but this event was represented as a mandatory school activity.  For the first half of the group interview, I saw that the interviewers were smiling and nodding more when I was speaking than when the other girls were speaking.  Then they asked each of us to explain what the phrase, "On my honor," from the beginning of the Girl Scout Pledge meant to us.  Several other girls spoke first.  When it was my turn, after saying the expected things, I concluded by saying, "Additionally, though, it implies that the people speaking don't always tell the truth and aren't always serious about what they say.  If they told the truth all the time, and said only what they meant, there would be no need to indicate that they really meant the words they were about to say by prefacing them with the phrase, 'On my honor.'"  The women interviewing us stiffened and frowned at me and started shaking their heads and frowning at one another.  I was not surprised when I "lost" the competition and the award went to another girl.

 

Martin Luther King

Every year, millions of Americans pay tribute to the memory of Dr. Martin Luther King. We often forget, however, that King was the object of derision when he was alive. At key moments in his quest for civil rights and world peace, the corporate media treated King with hostility. Dr. King's march for open housing in Chicago , when the civil rights movement entered the North, caused a negative, “you've-gone-too-far” reaction in the Northern press. And Dr. King's stand on peace and international law, especially his support for the self-determination of Third World peoples, caused an outcry and backlash in the predominantly white press. In his prophetic anti-war speech at Riverside Church in 1967 (recorded and filmed for posterity but rarely quoted in today's press) King emphasized four points: 1) that American militarism would destroy the war on poverty, 2) that American jingoism breeds violence, despair, and contempt for law within the United States, 3) the use of people of color to fight against people of color abroad is a "cruel manipulation of the poor," 4) human rights should be measured by one yardstick everywhere.
        The Washington Post denounced King's anti-war position, and said King was "irresponsible." In an editorial entitled "Dr. King's error," The New York Times chastised King for going beyond the allotted domain of black leaders -- civil rights. TIME called King's anti-war stand "demagogic slander...a script for Radio Hanoi." The media responses to Dr. King's calls for peace were so venomous that King's two recent biographers,­ Stephen Oates and David Garrow, ­devoted whole chapters to the media blitz against King's internationalism.
        Dr. King may be an icon within the media today, but there is still something upsetting about the way his birthday is observed. Four words ­ "I have a dream" ­ are often parroted out of context every January 15th. King, however, was not a dreamer ­ at least not the teary-eyed, mystic projected in the media. True, he was a visionary, but he specialized in applied ethics. He even called himself "a drum major for justice," and his mission, as he described it, was, "to disturb the comfortable and comfort the disturbed." In fact, the oft-quoted "I have a dream" speech was not about far-off visions. In his speech in Washington , D.C. , August 28, 1963 , Dr. King confronted the poverty, injustice, and "nightmare conditions" of American cities. In its totality, the "I have a dream" speech was about the right of oppressed and poor Americans to cash their promissory note in our time. It was a call to action.
           In 1986, Jesse Jackson wrote an essay on how Americans can protect the legacy of Dr. King. Jackson 's essay on the trivialization, distortion, and emasculation of King's memory, is one of the clearest, most relevant appreciations in print of Dr. King's work. Jackson wrote: "We must resist the media's weak and anemic memory of a great man. To think of Dr. King only as a dreamer is to do injustice to his memory and to the dream itself. Why is it that so many politicians today want to emphasize that King was a dreamer? Is it because they want us to believe that his dreams have become reality, and that therefore, we should celebrate rather than continue to fight? There is a struggle today to preserve the substance and the integrity of Dr. King's legacy."
          Today, the media often ignores the range and breadth of King's teachings. His speeches ­on economic justice, on our potential to end poverty, on the power of organized mass action, his criticism of the hostile media, and his opposition to U.S. imperialism (a word he dared to use) ­ are rarely quoted, much less discussed with understanding. In fact, successors to Dr. King who raise the same concerns today are again treated with sneers, and their "ulterior motives" are questioned. A genuine appreciation of Dr. King requires respect for the totality of his work and an ongoing commitment to struggle for peace and justice today.
            Paul Rockwell, formerly assistant professor of philosophy at Midwestern University , is a writer who lives in Oakland , California .


Lessons in the Garden, by Elaine F.

We love to sing “In the Garden” ….”and He talks with me”…..What is He telling us, there in the garden?  There are so many things, I don’t know where to begin.

But maybe TRUST is a good place to start.  Trust.  When you see that gray, bleak landscape in the winter, you know that it will be green again.  In the spring, it is green, but maybe everything didn’t come back.  You are disappointed, but you replace it, and the new plant has more vigor and maybe is even a new delight.  Is that how we should trust in God?

HOPE is another.  That one is less obscure.  Hope in spring never fails.  It does come.  Maybe there are too many rainy days, or maybe not enough, but it’s still spring.

What is God telling us as we observe how things grow?  Is the lesson about how to nurture?  The poor marigold won’t bloom under the shade of the crabapple tree.  The lavender wants some sand in its soil and the poppy will rebel if moved in spring.  But when their needs are met, they will thrive.  I think God is telling us to HELP EACH OTHER to see that needs are met, and to care for our own needs as well.

Then there is SHARING.  Why would the yellow loosestrife spread so diligently, or the mallow pop up here and there, if not to share?  And what delight there is in sharing, which leads to….

JOY!  Oh, such joy at the sight of a precious day lily blossom, ruffled edges, circled throat, sweet fragrance.  Joy to be experienced in this day, this moment!  Or the joy in one’s heart in the pleasure of sharing an exuberant grower that you enjoy, that you anticipate another will enjoy as well.

And this thought leads me to the question:  Are we here so God could share Himself?  When something is wonderful, we want everyone to see it, so they can enjoy it too.  Is that how God feels?  But there is something else.  When I want to share my garden, when I show another person and I want them to really experience it as I do, often they don’t.  They are preoccupied with their own thoughts.  They don’t notice the shape of the crabapple tree, or the fragrance of the alyssum, or the hosta’s green and white.  Is that how we are with God?  Do we NOTICE what He wants us to see?  Which leads to….

TENDING.  Watch for the signs that need attention.  Tender new plants ignored will dry up and shrivel when there is no rain, and older ones whose roots are crowded will lose their vigor.  Snip the spent bloom.  Squash the slug.   Mulch and water.  Is the lesson to remember that the Seed of Christ needs tending too?

And now we come to TROUBLES.  It’s not all pleasure in the garden.  There are the voles, the deer, the groundhogs, and the insects.  Some things are accepted and a shift in direction helps (plant lavender where the deer eat the flowers).  Some things can be overcome (a cat will keep the voles away).  We also have trouble in our lives.  At times we must accept the things that cause us difficulty.  At other times, we can overcome them with things like prayer, a friend, faith, spiritual or inspirational reading, some counseling.  And sometimes, as in the garden, we don’t know what to do when there is a problem.  In the garden, we turn to a friend to ask for help.  There is a Friend waiting for us to ASK FOR HELP in our spirit too.  I was having trouble writing this last paragraph and then my Friend, my Light, our Holy Spirit, just helped me finish it.

 

Integrity and Medical Errors, by Pat I.


Early Friends considered it critical to live in a way that reflected their sense of integrity. This meant speaking truth at all times. It meant trying to find ways to keep scrupulously to an ethical way of life and to do nothing to hide one’s convictions or status as a Friend even at great cost. The Quaker value of integrity is manifested by speaking the truth to others even when it gets one in trouble, and refusing to take part in deception.
         There has been much discussion in the medical literature about the concept of disclosure of medical errors or medical malpractice. In order to meet the definition of malpractice, five elements must be present. The healthcare provider must have a relationship with the patient or a duty to that patient. The provider must breach the duty or do something that does not follow the appropriate standard of care. There has to be harm to the patient. The actions of the healthcare provider must have caused the harm. Lastly, the injured person has to be someone the jury would like.
        It is difficult to determine the scope of the problem of medical malpractice. The Harvard Practice Study was based on medical records of New York patients. Of 30,000 records examined, the investigators found that 1 percent of the patients had experienced errors that caused injury. This study was based on 1980s records and published in the 1990s. Although healthcare providers were somewhat aware of the results, the press remained uninformed. When the study was described in an Institute of Medicine study published in 1999, the public first learned that 44,000-98,000 people die each year as a result of medical errors. The actual numbers are unknown, as the Harvard Practice Study relied on examination of only hospital charts. The investigators did not review physician office records, nursing home records, clinic records, or detect errors that were not recorded. HealthGrades (www.heatlhgrades.com) announced in July 2004 that as many as 195,000 people could be dying in US hospitals because of easily preventable errors. Their data was based on three years of Medicare data in all 50 states and Washington DC .
        Attorneys who handle medical malpractice receive calls every week from people who want to know if they have a valid claim. Jonathan Schochor, a Maryland attorney, sees up to 3000 potential cases per year and takes on about 80. He says, “You would have to be a fool to take a case that didn’t have merit. Claims cost between $75,000 and $150,000 to pay for witnesses, life care planner, economists and other basic business costs.” 
        A person who seeks a plaintiff’s attorney after a bad health outcome may do so for a number of reasons. Some people think they will get rich quick, unaware that it takes 3-5 years for a claim to wind its way through the courts, and that there are difficult criteria that have to be satisfied to establish a valid claim. Some people want to file a claim because they want to draw attention to a preventable error so that someone else does not get injured by the same mistake. Others want answers that they were unable to obtain from the healthcare providers. In research on this subject, investigators found that a patient’s decision to sue was influenced not only by the original injury, but also by insensitive handling and poor communication afterwards.  Less than 15% of explanations that patients received concerning their injury were considered satisfactory, and 37% stated they would not have sued if they had received an explanation and an apology. Twenty four percent recognized a cover-up, and 20% sued because they wanted information they could not get any other way.
         As Adam Rothenberg Esq. of Levinson Axelrod said, “Certainly in cases in which there is a clear error, I am amazed how often the patient eventually turns to me (an attorney) because of the attitude of the doctor following a clear mistake.  The comment I hear all too often is that it was bad enough that there was a mistake but the doctor's attitude, or lack of CARING (not care) that seemed to motivate them to seek counsel.  One could say it is a rationalization, but often these people just want to know if they can get their medical deductible paid for the additional treatment, they do not even contemplate the pain and suffering awards.  The best advice to doctors is that people who will sue, will sue - so do not turn your back on your patients.  Many patients will never contemplate an attorney if you just own up to the act, take responsibility and show you care about the patient.  And if he or she does sue, that is why you have insurance. As a med mal attorney, give me a good liability case with a lack of caring or strong denial over logic, and I can make it a GREAT case.”
         An accrediting body for hospitals and some nursing homes, among other healthcare facilities, the Joint Commission on Accreditation of Healthcare Organizations published a standard in 2001 that required healthcare providers to inform patients and their families about unanticipated outcomes. An immediate outcry was heard from risk managers, doctors, and others who were fearful of the implications of telling patients the truth about errors. There is still considerable resistance and fear rooted in the perception that admitting mistakes is not safe. Many healthcare providers believe a number of myths, including that there is no real ethical or legal duty to disclose medical errors to patients or that patients don’t really want to know about errors in their care. In one study, only 60% of doctors believed that a patient should always be told when a complication occurred. Doctors are less likely to disclose mistakes that result in serious injury or death.  In some studies, physicians said that they do not disclose errors for fear of further harming patients or of losing the patient’s trust. Thirty three percent of physicians said they would offer incomplete or misleading information to a patient’s family if a mistake led to a patient’s death. The reasons for dishonesty were associated with the emotional devastation felt by MD associated with being involved in an error, pressure to be perfect, anxiety about losing professional reputation, and fear of litigation. Some doctors do not disclose errors because of the mistaken belief that if they tell the truth, they increase their chances of being sued. However, only 1-2% of negligent adverse events led to actual claims. MDs estimated their risk of being sued is about three times the actual rate. Healthcare facilities that practice a full disclosure model have seen a reduction in claims being filed and legal bills. For example, at U of Michigan Health Systems, encouraging doctors to apologize for mistakes is part of a broader effort to help doctors feel comfortable in being honest with their patients. Annual attorneys fees have since dropped from $3 million to $1 million, and malpractice lawsuits dropped from 262 in 2001 to 130 per year.                

           Lack of full disclosure and confusion regarding the reasons for rising medical malpractice premiums persist. The nation’s largest medical malpractice insurer, GE Medical Protective, has admitted that medical malpractice caps on damage awards and other limitations on recoveries for injured patients will not lower physicians’ premiums. The insurer admitted it when it filed a document with the Texas Department of Insurance to explain why it planned to raise physicians’ premiums 19% six months after Texas enacted a $250,000 cap on non-economic compensation to victims of medical malpractice. The cap was put into place after Medical Protective and other insurers lobbied for caps.
          Non-economic damages (pain and suffering) are a small percentage of total losses paid, according to Medical Protective. Capping non-economic damages will show loss savings of 1 percent. California ’s Proposition 103, in place since 1988, has stopped this year alone a $50 million in rate hikes proposed by the largest medical malpractice insurers. Malpractice premiums costs are 0.62 percent of the nation’s healthcare expenditures, according to a recent study of the Department of Health and Human Services.

            What you can do: contact your senator or congressman protesting Bush’s plans to limit pain and suffering awards. This limitation will deprive patients of money and discourage some suits from being filed. The deterrent value of lawsuits in keeping healthcare safer will be lost.

For more information, see www.citizen.org and www.leapfroggroup.org. This article was based on several sources of information, including first hand experience. Pat I. owns a medical legal support business that provides expert witnesses to attorneys. She has been an expert witness since 1987.

Quotes

When you rise in the morning, form a resolution to make the day a happy one for a fellow creature.

Sydney Smith, England

 

One generation passeth away, and another generation cometh; but the earth abideth for ever.

Ecclesiastes 1:4

 

We are who we are as much because of our gaps and failures as because of our strengths.

Thomas Moore (1779-1852) Ireland

 

Do not look forward to what may happen tomorrow.

The same father who cares for you today

will take care of you tomorrow and every day.

He will shield you from suffering or

He will give you unfailing strength to bear it.

Be at peace, then, do not be anxious.

He is with you and in you.

St. Francis of Assisi (c. 1181-1226) Italy

 

We have two ears and only one tongue in order that we may hear more and speak less.

Diogenes (412-323 BC)

 

Quotes by Martin Luther King

   Like an unchecked cancer, hate corrodes the personality and eats away its vital unity. Hate destroys a man's sense of values and his objectivity. It causes him to describe the beautiful as ugly and the ugly as beautiful, and to confuse the true with the false and the false with the true.

  

  

  

   Hatred paralyzes life; love releases it. Hatred confuses life; love harmonizes it. Hatred darkens life; love illumines it.

   Love is the only force capable of transforming an enemy into friend.